December 17, 2017- Irene G.

Blog Post #16

Hello North house! Hope you all had a great weekend and are ready to finish off the last week before winter break!

Since Christmas day is coming up soon, I thought I would ask a question in spirit of the holiday. Every year for the holidays, thousands of parents convince their kids that there is a red suited, white bearded man traveling around with reindeer and a sleigh and is sliding down the chimney at night to leave presents under the tree. Santa Claus has been a debatable topic for both scientists and parents because many people think that parents shouldn’t lie to their children all these years about something that ends up being fake. This article though suggests otherwise, explaining that “Santa is a normal and healthy part of development.”

My question is:  What do you think is the best way to tell a child that Santa is not real? Should a parent make their kids believe in Santa at all? And finally, at what age did you stop believing in Santa Claus and why?

Advertisements

26 thoughts on “December 17, 2017- Irene G.

  1. The best way to tell a child that Santa is not real is to sit them down when they come to a certain age. As the article mentioned, you should ask your child whether or not they still believe. If they say “yes” and they’re still young, then wait until it is time. If they say “no,” then sit them down and explain the tradition carefully. Don’t break a child’s hopes and dreams, along with their imagination. Parents should allow their children to believe in Santa because, not only is it a tradition, but it develops their imagination and creativity. The article also mentioned that children are willing to make writing efforts in creating letters to Santa. Believing in Santa forces kids to behave well in order to get what they desire or get a piece of coal. I don’t recall the specific age when I stopped believing, but my parents never told me. I figured it out by myself by reading the tradition and I accepted the fact, but I still like the idea of Santa Claus coming to town every Christmas. It probably started when I would obtain notes from the Tooth Fairy and I would realize that the notes were written in my father’s hand-writing. Since then, I’ve observed every holiday and I would try to stay up ever Christmas in hopes of meeting Santa Claus. I would always fail because I would knock out before midnight. However, I always believed because it helped me celebrate Christmas more.

    What was the impact with the idea of Santa Claus being put into your life? Did you behave every Christmas? Would you write letters, bake cookies, and behave well?

  2. Wait… what do you mean “Santa isn’t real”?!
    Just kidding! After reading the article, I believe that the best way to explain to a child how Santa has been made up the entire time is to have them become Santa themselves. I found this method after researching the best and easiest way to deliver the bad news. It came from a facebook post written last Christmas and can be read here: ( https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/a-lovely-non-traumatizing-way-to-break-the-news-about-santa-to-your-kids_us_5845b3c6e4b028b323389153 )

    A mother gave her son a speech on how to do Santa’s job themselves because he had done many other good deeds over the year. Once the son had completed his first task as “Santa”, he would continue to deliver gifts to people in need every Christmas. I found this method very thoughtful and convenient for kids to gain skills in sharing and compassion for others!

    I believe that it is up to the parents’ own decision on whether their child should believe in Santa Claus at a young age, so I don’t really have a say in that argument. However, it is very fun for a child to believe in Santa Claus, so I would encourage passing on that tradition.

    I stopped believing in Santa Claus around the age of 11, I think. My parents broke the news to both myself and my younger sister. I took the news better than her, but still felt pretty let down that I had to stop believing in him. However, I never was in full disbelief of his existence, and I went on thinking of Santa Claus as a symbolic manifestation of the compassionate, gift-giving spirit that embodies the holidays.

    To answer Raquel’s question, I remember how I thought about my actions a lot over the course of the year in hopes that I landed on Santa’s nice list. Santa impacted my life by helping to keep my behavior in check, and also made me anticipate Christmas a lot more than I do nowadays. I still get excited, but when I believed in Santa, that excitement for Christmas felt much stronger.

    My question: Did you ever attempt a stakeout on Christmas so that you could try to catch a glimpse of Santa Claus delivering the presents?

  3. Santa was an iconic figure for me as I was growing up, sticking with me until the age of 7. I slowly began to realize that a fat man on a flying sleigh delivering presents through chimneys is highly improbable. My parents never told me that he was not real; I slowly realized it on my own with the help of secret meetings with my other skeptic friends. Nevertheless, I believe there are many different methods on how to break the news to children depending on the situation, but the best method that usually works is waiting for the appropriate age. Once a child has experienced doubt in belief for the jolly-old man, the parent needs to make sure that the child fully disbelieves in Santa before breaking the news. In this way, children will be able to better comprehend and understand why Santa is not real and the logic that was behind the myth. (It could also serve as a history lesson of Saint Nick!)

    However, having children believe in Santa at a young age is fun for both the parents and the children. It gives the children a sense of thrill and excitement when they believe a big guy with a sack of presents will deliver toys to them if they are nice. In fact, having children believe in Santa opens their gateways of imagination and creativity, as it truly gives them the freedom to explore what Santa could or could not be.

    Again, I stopped believing in Santa around the age of 7 through constant meetings at the school cafeteria with my friends. It was a very intriguing and exciting part of my life as me and a group of my friends would plot Santa’s encapture if he was real and if he visited any of our houses. Nevertheless, our countless blueprints of Santa traps were useless (after staying up all night) as we finally concluded that Santa Claus could not be a real person.

    To answer Sarah’s question:
    Yes, I have attended a stakeout in search of Santa and was very disappointed that my prediction beforehand of Santa being a fake figure was correct. I was correct in the end, but the process was fun and enjoyable for me to discover and find out.

    My question to you is: What are the benefits and disadvantages of telling children stories or fairy-tales?

  4. Like the article said, i think the best way is to ask if the child themselfs believe in santa and if they do its probably to soon to tell them. I do believe that parents should let kids believe in santa, as it is a part of american culture around christmas and is usually quite fun for them. I was always a little skeptical of santa but i think i stopped believing all together when i was around 5 years old. Though my siblings kept believing till around 6 or 8(even when i proved he wasn’t real).
    To answer Sarah’s question When i was skill skeptical and young i would stay up with my siblings to try and catch santa but i would always fall asleep before i could see my parents fill all our stockings.

    Q. Has anyone ever gone to see a santa mall? and if so what did you ask him for?

  5. Many kids at a a very young age were told that Santa existed and that he would come and leave presents under the tree. He was one of the many reasons why kids were so pumped for Christmas to arrive. As a kid, I did believe in Santa. I would wake up in the middle of the night to try and see him myself. I do remember one Christmas where I hid behind a couch right in front of the Christmas tree to get a glimpse of Santa. But that all failed when I fell asleep and woke up the next morning. But hey, at least I gave it shot. Growing up, My brother and I were always ready for Christmas and for Santa to bring us our gifts. As I grew older, I did come to realize that Santa was not real. I began to talk to my friends, and there was always that one friend that ruined stuff for everyone. So from that point, I stopped believing in Santa since I was older and did put more logic into the thought of Santa.

    I feel like the best way to tell a kid that Santa doesn’t exist is by sitting down with them by the time that they reach a certain age. They should be told the real meaning which is giving to others and not just receiving. This can teach the kids to help others who are in need. Not only this, but the parents should tell kids about Saint Nick and who he was and what he did. This will help the kids get a better understanding of what the true meaning of Christmas is.

    I do think that parents should take their kids believe in Santa because it is a very fun experience for the kids and the parents. Having kids believe in Santa also helps kids to be more creative and imaginative as well. I can say from personal experience that it was very fun believing in Santa since it made me do many things to try and see him. It is really up to the parents’ decision but I think that this a great tradition to maintain.

    I stopped believing in Santa at around age 7 or 8. My parents never told me that he didn’t exist but I kinda found out because of the kids at my school. I would say that Christmas was very exciting for me since I always tried to see a man in a red suit at midnight. I would also leave him milk and cookies. Sometimes I got hungry so I ate the cookies before he got here. But overall, this was a great childhood memory that I still remember to this day.

    Do think you think that the imagination of kids differ from those who did believe in Santa vs those who did not believe in him?

  6. Santa Claus has been the face of christmas for a very long time. Growing up, everyone thought Santa was real and that he gave us presents. I think the best way to tell a child that Santa is not real is by telling them at a certain age, like around 6-7 years old. However, the parent would need to explain to the child the concept of Santa because they will be so confused of why their parents made up some guy to give them presents. I think it is a fun way to get kids into the holiday spirit. Probably a good idea to break it to them that Santa isn’t real at around 6-7 years old because I feel that is not too young or too old. The longer parents wait to tell the kid, the more devastated they get. I think it is not a must to make kids believe in Santa, but if their friends or teachers or shows on TV encourage the belief in Santa, they will follow as well. So, it doesn’t really matter if the parent makes the child believe in Santa or not, it also has to do with the influences of others. I didn’t really believe in Santa as a child. I did for a few years but I figured that Santa was just my parents or aunts and uncles. I stopped believing in Santa probably around 6 years old because it just didn’t make sense to me. One guy delivering presents to every single child in the world in one night? Very impossible. Also, he goes through everyone’s chimneys and knows if we all have been bad or good. It honestly did not make any sense to me.

    Response to Raquel’s question: The idea of Santa Claus made me even more excited about Christmas. I tried so hard to be an extra good child. I would even write letters telling Santa what my family members wanted for Christmas. I did not bake cookies but I would write and decorate the letter and “mail” it to the North Pole.

    My Question: Is it right that adults lie about these things to children? Basically putting all these made up stories in their heads? Why or why not?

  7. What do you think is the best way to tell a child that Santa is not real? Should a parent make their kids believe in Santa at all? And finally, at what age did you stop believing in Santa Claus and why?

    I personally think it is acceptable for parents to introduce the idea of Santa to their kids because it is not only a fun American tradition that both the parents and children enjoy, but there is no harm done if the reality is revealed in a valid manner. As the article states, imagination is a normal part of development, and therefore introducing the idea of a fat man delivering gifts to the entire world helps develop the kids’ minds. This could also serve as a history lesson as well because this iconic figure does derive from St. Nicholas, who was famous for giving gifts and money to the poor, and it’s these values that are important to keeping the christmas spirit alive. This could also inspire children and teach them to value these positive principles, although in this day and age this has increasingly become difficult because so many are focused on gifts and presents rather than togetherness and the comfort of being surrounded by those they care about. Regardless, the practice of teaching young ones about Santa is a good thing because, like the article said, it can reinforce positive habits such as writing letters to this iconic figure to practice their literacy skills.

    The best way to tell a child that Santa is not real is by determining at what age he/she is ready to learn the truth. It is important not to end the fun to early as well as to not deceive them for too long, as both these circumstances can have a detrimental impact on the child’s mind. As the article stated, this is best determined by asking them if they still believe in him once they begin to ask questions. It is too soon to reveal the truth if they still believe in him, but if they are skeptical, it is best to rid them of those doubts and reveal the story behind this myth. This will give the tradition meaning and something beautiful to look back on.

    In my personal experience, I stopped believing in Santa in a sudden moment at the age of five. The reason was because my dad had revealed that it was really him who had bought the presents on christmas morning rather than Santa. I didn’t believe him at first because I had so much faith in this iconic figure and was still rather young, but unfortunately, he abruptly stated the ridiculousness of a fat man buying presents for all the kids in the world. Because he revealed it to me so early and with such insensitivity, this took away years of fun and excitement in believing in this christmas tradition. Because of this, I fully understand how risky it can be to introduce Santa Claus to children, but if the correct actions are taken to reveal the truth about this iconic figure, then there should be no problem.

    To answer Sarah’s question: I did attempt a stakeout on Christmas to attempt to see if Santa really existed but unfortunately never succeeded because I would always end up falling asleep by ten o’clock. And because I learned the truth at such a young age, I wasn’t given the opportunity to try again and figure that out for myself.

    My question is: What detrimental effects could people who learned about Santa Claus in an abrupt and insensitive way experience compared to kids who were told in a valid and careful manner?

  8. Santa is an old man with a large figure, dressed in red and white. He goes from house to house giving presents to the good boys and girls on Christmas day. He climbs down your chimney, eats the milk and cookies, and leaves the presents under the tree. Lastly, he rides off on his magical flying reindeer and sleigh. That is an incredibly engaging and interesting story/ concept. It is very elaborate and shows a lot of diversity for something that is fictional. I believe that it is great that parents introduce the concept of Santa to their children at a young age, not only as an incentive to make them behave, but also to stir creativity in them. If kids are told stories like this that seem very far-fetched or beyond possibilities, I think they will understand there is possibility for more than what is in common knowledge, and they will strive towards that. When parents have to tell their kids that Santa doesn’t exist, they can say it in a way that is not detrimental to them. By telling them that Santa does not exist directly, they will feel limited, because of the word “not”. Kids are taught that “no” or “not” means to eliminate that possibility or refrain from doing some action. By telling them: Santa is an imaginary person, or telling them that Santa is an idea that people created, Santa is not an eliminated possibility from their mind, but is just in a different form. I believe this is less limiting on a child’s mind.
    The first time I realized that Santa was not real was when my mom asked me what I wanted for Christmas with amazon open on her computer. I put two and two together and realized where presents really came from. I did not really care, because I was getting something either way.
    To answer Melissa’s question: I believe that if a child is told that Santa is not real very abruptly, they will have a harder time believing other people in the future compared to people who were not told in that way.
    My question: What would happen to culture, especially Christmas time, if kids were not taught to believe in Santa anymore?

  9. Personally, I don’t remember ever really believing in Santa Clause.
    There are a number of reasons for this. Foremost is that I figured it out pretty quickly that the story was far to improbable to be true. Also, I was very familiarized with the true stories of Saint Nicholas and King Wenceslaus I, who both inspired the myth. Aside from this I was not raised to believe in him either.
    That being said I believe it to be a good idea for parents to raise their children in the same way.

    To answer Suhas’ question:
    I would like to believe that culture would move in a direction closer to what the holidays originally meant, but unfortunately I cannot think that to be the case. Culture would likely follow it’s consumerist ideals and find some other way to sell their sh!t.

  10. Before telling a child that Santa is not real, parents and guardians should enlighten children about the generous deeds of St. Nicholas. I think that the best way to tell a child that Santa is not real is by explaining to them that Santa Claus is based on the legacy of St. Nicholas because, this saint is a real human being. I think that parents should tell their kids about Santa because he is a character that is famous in Christmas holiday tradition who is depicted in many movies, shows, books, radio shows, Christmas house decorations, and shopping malls. I stopped believing in Santa Claus when I was eight years old because my classmates had told me that he wasn’t real.

    To respond to Suhas’ question, during Christmas time, culture would have lost a huge part of itself if kids were not taught to believe in Santa anymore. For children. I think there might be a lot more focus and emphasis on giving to others more than just the excitement and anticipation of expecting a bunch of toys and gifts.

    If you become a parent or guardian in the future, will you tell your child that Santa is real?

  11. What do you think is the best way to tell a child that Santa is not real? I believe that the best time to tell a child that Santa is not real, is to let them realize it on their own and allow the child to confront a parent(s) by themselves. As someone who does not believe in Santa anymore, I have always enjoyed the entertaining conversations with older people and having them explain how their parents played Santa or the other countless humiliating stories about their discovery of Santa Claus. This concept of a fat man keeping tabs on little kids is a whole tradition enchanted by the parents of the world. Continuing on, should a parent make their kids believe in Santa at all? Personally, I was always freaked out about an old man watching my every move. If I had the decision to tell a kid if Santa was real or not, then I would choose to tell them the truth. The story of Santa and his elves used to be about a man who watched if children were naughty or nice within the North Pole. Now, this idea of Santa Claus has turned into a marketing campaign for companies to take advantage of parents and children. Finally, what age did you stop believing in Santa Claus and why? I stopped believing in Santa at six years old because my brothers told me. To answer Sarah’s question, “Did you ever attempt a stakeout on Christmas so that you could try to catch a glimpse of Santa Claus delivering the presents?” Yes, I remember waiting in the hallways by myself until midnight but I would always fall asleep and end up in my room towards the morning. My brothers used to make fun of me because they knew Santa was not real. Such good memories…

    Lewis, Tanya. “Kids’ Belief in Santa Myth Is Healthy, Psychologists Say.” LiveScience, Purch, 19 Dec. 2013, http://www.livescience.com/42089-kid-s-belief-in-santa-is-healthy.html.

    Question: What is your favorite part of Christmas?

  12. After reading this article the best way to tell children that they should be a certain age where parents can tell him or her that Santa isn’t real. Parents should allow their kids to believe Santa is real until a certain age that is appropriate to break the news to them. Children that believe in santa makes them behave properly and they think there going to be getting reward by getting gifts from Santa, then they will write Santa and they’ll ask him to bring them something such as toys, clothes or perhaps a sibling. I remember begin told like when I was 4 or 5 that Santa wasn’t real and my mom tells me now that I cried for such a long time.
    QUESTION: Did you ever write Santa a letter and if so what would you ask him for?
    Sarah H. : Yes, I would try every year to stay awake just to see Santa and would end up falling asleep and just remember all the presents under the tree and telling my mom why wouldn’t she wake me up and just smiled and tell me if i wouldn’t have gotten gifts.

  13. The article states that when kids believe in santa it’s not necessarily a bad thing. Santa can be part of strong traditions and help “reinforce good values”. It wouldn’t necessarily be lying since santa is based on St. Nicholas. The article although mentions that breaking the news to children that Santa is fictional it may be hard but, they suggest that it depend on whether the child still believes on santa and on their age as well.

    In response to Adriana as a child I would write a letter to Santa usually, I would ask for whatever toy was popular at the time and it was usually toys or clothing.

    Question: How did Santa take a part of your life?

  14. My question is: What do you think is the best way to tell a child that Santa is not real? Should a parent make their kids believe in Santa at all? And finally, at what age did you stop believing in Santa Claus and why?

    Santa Claus is a story that brings joy to children and motivates them to be good. Not only does the tale of Santa Claus do this, but inspire children to participate in a tradition of giving to those you care about. As the article stated, promoting the story of a fat man in a red suit is not harmless to your children. It helps them in developing imagination skills and can motivate them to behave. Sant Claus only gives gifts to those who are good and parents can use that against their children to act properly at the house or at events. There are benefits to informing a child of Santa Claus and there are really no cons to not telling a child about Santa Claus. My parents never reinforced the story of Santa Claus and I came out fine. To ensure that I would behave, my parents just told me that I would not get gifts if I broke any rules. Therefore, I do not believe a parent should make their kids believe in Santa Claus at all. The parent can do what they chose to do.

    I think the best way to inform a child that Santa is not real to ask if they still believe in the jolly old fat man. If they do, recite the story of Santa Claus and pinpoint certain flaws. Have them connect the flaws and come to the conclusion that Santa is not real. You are therefore technically not at blame because the child realized Santa is not real.

    I never believed in Santa. I was just told to not tell other kids Santa is not real.

    To answer Jocelyn’s question, my favorite part of Christmas is hanging out with my family. My family comes over on Christmas Eve and spends the night at my house. We open gifts at midnight and I enjoy doing anything to stay up until that time. My cousins and I binge video games and play soccer outside to stay up. It is a blast.

    My question is have you ever spoiled Santa Claus for someone?

  15. What do you think is the best way to tell a child that Santa is not real? Should a parent make their kids believe in Santa at all? And finally, at what age did you stop believing in Santa Claus and why?

    As kid who believed Santa was real until I was like twelve, my parents never really told me Santa was not real I kind of figured it out on my own. However, I believe that is the best way of finding out that Santa is not real. When I found out Santa was not real I wasn’t really devastated because I slowly figured it out and I was twelve so I was at that age where it did not really make a big difference. So I believe that throwing it at your child is probably not the best idea but having them figure it out might be the better option. They may be too young and be really sad to hear that someone they looked up to and was surprised for them to come every year, did not exist.

    How did your parents tell you that Santa Claus was not real? And how did you feel after that?

  16. The best way to tell a child that Santa is not real is when they start question if he is real or not. When they start questioning the myth, you should tell them straight up and explain how he is not real. Since they are the ones asking and questioning if he is real or not, so it is the way to go and slowly break it down to them that he is not real. Parents should make their children believe in Santa because in the article it said that it was healthy and children should believe in all these mythical beings as it allows them to expand their creativity and shows that they are right in the mind and healthy. I stopped believing in Santa when I was around the age of 7 and how I found out was out of my logical thinking and I figured it out. When I found out that Santa wasn’t real I wasn’t bummed out, but I figured since most of the things that I imagined and so on didn’t become real, so I continued on and it didn’t really affect me in a big way.

    Do believe that children should find out on their own or should parents tell their children that Santa is not real?

  17. I feel like there are multiple effective ways that you can tell your child that Santa’s not real. The general idea is that parents should be straightforward. I feel that once they are exposed to the truth, things that didn’t seem right during the Christmas season would soon be pieced together.

    There has been lots of debate regarding whether or not a parent should allow their child to believe in this imaginary figure; some say that it exercises imagination and is a reason for children to think of their actions. Others say that making your child believe in an imaginary being is equivalent to setting them up for disappointment.

    I, personally, didn’t even find out through my parents; I kind of just pieced everything together. The gifts would be wrapped all neat, and the tags that would say who they were for were written in my mom’s handwriting. It basically avalanched from there.

    To answer Suhas’s question, I believe that the Christmas spirit wouldn’t be reinforced as much as it is today. Santa seems to be an important figure in the Christmas season, and it would not be the same without him.

    How did you find out Santa is made-up?

  18. Personally I think the idea of Santa Claus is good for a variety of reasons, the first being that it motivates kids to do better throughout the year knowing Santa might reward them. The next reason is that the Santa Claus figure has brought several jobs into the world like those who make the Santa decorations/merchandise and those who dress up as Santa and take pictures with children. When I get older I will tell my children to believe in Santa Claus because I want them to try their best.
    On the other hand children grow up and will eventually figure out that Santa isn’t real and they’ll be devastated. I personally have never met a person who Said they felt sad when they found out Santa was fake. I myself was about 9 when I found out Santa was fake and that’s because people at my school told me and it didn’t make me sad. But I can still see why lying to your kids for years about Santa could be an issue. The best way to tell your kid that santa isn’t real is to tell them straight forward. Nonetheless Santa is the face of the happiest time of the year and he should stay as is.

    In response to Lucia’s question- I found out when I was in elementary school because my friends told me

    My question- when and where did the idea of Santa Claus originate?

  19. Santa Claus is a story that has been passed down generation to generation and will continue to be. But at a certain age, a child should know that Santa Claus is not real. I think the best way for a child to be told that Santa Claus is not real is to by doing nothing. Let the child do it themself. Allow for the child to critically think and develop certain skills in analyzing.
    Based on the article, they are really no pros and cons to informing children about Santa, so no, I do not think parents should make their kids believe in Santa at all. Like Adrian said, parents can decide what is best fit for their kid. If a family lives under a low SES, it is best to not have the child wait for a gift when there may not be one.
    I stopped believing in Santa when I was 8. It was during Christmas time and one of my classmates told me. I was not that surprised. I had already developed a sense that he was not real, but I still felt sad when my friend told me.

    To answer Oscar’s questions, I think children should find out on their own. They will be brighter and realize their full potential of analyzation skills.

    My question is, should Santa Claus be considered race-neutral and no longer promoted as white?

  20. A child’s imagination should be allowed to run wild as far as they want. Imagination allows a child’s ingenuity and creativity begin for child development. Even Einstein said “imagination is more important than knowledge.” I think children should be able to grow up and out of believing in Santa. It should not be the patents job to ruins their imagination and dreams. Furthermore, children should have the freedom to believe in what they want; whatever they decide to believe in, the parents should support them.
    As a child I was never properly exposed to the myth of Santa Claus. I never understood the reason why kids believed in santa.
    To answer David’s question, some benefits of telling a child fairy tales would be to increase and allow them to explore further into their imagination. Although the disadvanges would be someday they would have to learn all the stories ever told by their parents were lies.
    What is your most memorable fairy tale told by your parents ?

  21. After reading the article, I believe the best way to tell a child that Santa is not real is to be straightforward. When a five-year-old child sees Santa’s present waiting for them underneath the Christmas tree, they immediately accept it without any questions. On the other hand, when a twelve-year-old child sees a gift from a mysterious, fat man who visits every year, they begin asking questions. This being said, I think the best way to tell a child that Santa is not real is timing. Since Santa Claus mainly taught kids to be nice, instead of naughty, parents should tell their children when they are at an age where they take on more responsibilities. Yes I think that parents should welcome Santa Claus in their child’s life because it teaches them to behave or else they won’t get a gift. It teaches kids to control their tempers, “you better not pout, you better not cry…” I think parents can reveal that Santa is not real to their kids when they are about eleven or twelve years old.

    In response to Lucia’s question, I found out that Santa is made-up when I recognized my mom’s handwriting to the handwriting on Santa’s gift. I took my mom’s christmas card to me and compared it to “Santa’s” christmas card to me. I was very shocked and lost all my trust.

    Question: Do you think the idea of Santa Claus will ever disappear? Why or why not?

  22. I believe that there comes a point in life when you just accept the fact that Santa is not real. some kids do get really angry but I think most kids just understand that Santa is not real and that they should start thanking their parents for the gifts they have been given every year. I found out that Santa was not real when my parents accidentally messed up. I had my doubts about Santa when my friend was like “my mommy said Santa wasn’t real” so then I asked Santa for real bells from hi sley. I asked for this because well, I used to watch the Polar Express, and that movie taught me that only people who truly believe without a doubt in Santa could hear the bells. My parents took the bells of a little Santa stuffed toy and I immediately noticed when I was given the gift. To top it all off I jingled the bells and could hear them!!! I was like OMG Santa isn’t real. So then I just started thanking my parents for all the gifts. I honestly believe that it is up to the parents to decide whether or not they want to lie to their children. If I ever become a parent I would tell my kids there is a Santa because when I look back on my childhood it was always so fun to think that Santa was coming and I would get gifts and I would want my child to experience the same joy I felt on Christmas Eve. I personally knew several people who thought it was wrong to lie to their children and they were the kids who sadly ruined Christmas for many of their friends because they told them.

    To answer Kevin: I always wondered why Santa was white because he is based on a Turkish man. I believe that Santa wouldn’t be race-neutral I believe he should be of Turkish decent because Saint Nicholas was the man who Santa is based on and it would be nice for children to understand who he really was once they stop believing.

    My question: Do you think that you would have been more compelled to behave as a child if you knew you were going to be kidnapped my a Christmas Krampus like Europeans say? Or, do you feel like thinking you may get a piece of coal is good enough?

  23. I used to be an avid believer in Santa, and when I figured out it was just my parents, I just didn’t really care too much. I realized my parents were kind enough to buy me a lot of toys and even the ugly white socks they would buy from Ross and wrap last second. The best way to tell a child that Santa is not real is just tell them and be forward. Obviously the child will have an emotional burst if they had a huge tie with Santa and the idea of their gifts coming from him, but the truth in most cases helps a lot. It’s good to be protective of your kids, but lying to them is also not the best thing to do. In the end, if the family is Christian, Saint Nick is their in spirit of the parents and that’s what matters. Santa Claus not being real does not have to be a bad thing, I personally believing showing your affection to your children is what matters during the Christmas season.
    Parents have the choice to have their kids believe in Santa, I rather not lie to my children if I ever have any. I personally believe not telling your kids lies is a good thing, and shouldn’t be looked down upon for not believing in Santa Claus.
    I stopped at around of the age of 10, I was somewhat apathetic and did not mind, because in the end I had a mass amount of presents, which always made my Christmas.

    To answer Andrea’s question I personally believe the idea of Santa Claus will stay. There will always be people sticking to tradition, which doesn’t have to be a bad thing. The thought of someone bring presents for “free” at the strike of midnight is fun and exciting. Having family time, baking a tray of cookies and having a big glass of milk is what made my childhood fun during the Christmas season. However, probably in the neat future, around us we will be more inclined to tell our children that we just bought it for them because that’s factual and true. A Santa figure like our parents would be cool, and can make it fun for the whole family.

    To answer Lucia’s question I found out Santa wasn’t real when I was 10. I woke up and there were barely any presents under the tree on Christmas, my parents and I then took a trip to Ontario Mills and decided to head out the next week to buy whatever we want. I asked them,” did Santa miss our house,” and then as I said that, it hit me. Santa didn’t just miss our house, they just unfortunately did not have enough money and time to buy presents. I didn’t mind because I respected my parents were still able to be willing to buy presents for me with their own money.

    To answer Adrian’s question, I have never spoiled Santa for anyone. I just let it gradually happen, because I felt that would be such a jerk thing to do to other kids. The surprise of not knowing may have been ruined for me, but I didn’t want to be the person to ruin that emotion and feeling during Christmas time for my classmates.

    Works Cited
    Lewis, Tanya. “Kids’ Belief in Santa Myth Is Healthy, Psychologists Say.” LiveScience, Purch, 19 Dec. 2013, http://www.livescience.com/42089-kid-s-belief-in-santa-is-healthy.html.

  24. I believe that parents shouldn’t tell their children that Santa isn’t real until they figure it out on their own. Whether someone from school tells them or if they just realized it on their own. I don’t see any problem with parents telling their kids Santa is real because it gives children a sort of magic in their life and brings joy. I was about the age of five when I realized Santa wasn’t real because I saw my aunt hiding our Christmas presents.

    In response to Andrea’s question I don’t think the idea of Santa will disappear because it brings happiness to kids.

    Question: what was your favorite thing about Santa when growing up?

  25. I agree with the article, and think the best way for parents to tell their children the truth about Santa Claus is to first ask if they still believe. If they do, and are still at a young age, I would refrain from breaking the news, and encourage them to still participate in the Santa Claus traditions like leaving out cookies and writing letters. However, if the child’s belief in the character is wavering, I would then reveal to them that Santa is a representative of Christmas Spirit, which is not make-believe. I think it is important to explain to the child why Santa is introduced to them in the first place, and be careful not to imply that they were wholeheartedly lied to for much of their childhood. After they understand the truth, I would encourage them to preserve the beliefs of other children who are still young and excited about the magical man who gifts them presents. I think that children should believe in Santa at a young age, because it introduces them to parts of the Christmas Spirit that is shared by many. It offers a simple way for children to grasp the gift-giving season, while also instilling a sense of good behavior. While the concept of “Naughty-or-Nice” beholds an extrinsic behavior, it often branches into things that celebrate the true meaning of the holidays as the child matures. Ideally, children should stop believing in Santa once they are in middle school. Around this time, a child should be able to make connections, and infer what is real and what is not. There will come a point where someone will be able to see that some things do not add up, and others are just too irrational. However, I do not believe any child should stop believing in the “magic” of Christmas, just because they do not believe in the fictional character; there are other ways that children can enjoy the “magic” of Christmas.

    To answer Adrian’s question, yes, I have spoiled Santa to someone. It was unintentional, but it was too late for me to take it back. My mom’s friend had her children over at our house, all of which were younger than I was. We were playing in my room when the other kids started to argue over who got to play with what. One of them brought up how Santa was watching, and I immediately said, “He isn’t even real.” I covered my mouth and they stared at me in shock. I felt bad, but we’re good now.

    Question:
    Do you think Santa Claus is a good representative of the Christmas Spirit?

  26. First of all, Santa is real and I don’t think a child should be told lies. However, if it was the truth, parents should tell students Santa isn’t real by not telling them. Eventually, when they grow up and have kids of their own, they will realize that their kids didn’t receive gifts this year because Santa isn’t real. Parents should tell their kids Santa is real because that helps them be good throughout their year. Finally, I was 14 when I found out about the “rumor” that Santa wasn’t real. This is because my peers made fun of me.

    To answer Kobe, I think SC is a good representation of Christmas because he shows the jolly and generosity Christmas celebrators should have.

    Do you think traditions like Santa should be broken?

Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

w

Connecting to %s